Family Recovery Group

Do you love someone who is struggling with addiction? Is nothing you do working?

Family Recovery Coach, Lucy Tomkins, can help by providing a safe environment specifically for individuals and families affected by a loved one’s addiction. With the support of education, new skills and tools, Lucy can help you heal from the impact of their addiction. Discover an opportunity to reclaim your life and start contributing to a positive outcome for you, your family and your loved one.

Click on the image to watch a video of Lucy Tomkins talking about the Family Recovery Coaching Programme at The Soke. Lucy is an ICF accredited Family Recovery Coach and teacher of: The United in Recovery programme - your healing pathway from the impact of your loved one’s addiction.

What is Family Recovery Coaching?

Our Family Recovery Coaching service is an ongoing interactive partnership designed to help parents, partners and/or children of addicts find a way to live their lives regardless of their loved one’s choices, at the same time learning how they can be their loved one’s best chance of a successful recovery outcome. It is not counselling or therapy in of itself.

Through education about addiction together with tools and skills to help, clients learn how to make healthier choices, thereby contributing to the addict’s recovery rather than to their addiction.

Like life coaching, it is forward-looking and goal-orientated, helping clients achieve positive results in their lives, moving from where they are right now to where they want to be.

Who can benefit from Family Recovery Coaching?

Anyone who has been impacted or affected by someone else’s addiction, whether that person is actively using, in treatment or in recovery.

If you feel that your life is no longer your own and you want to regain your equilibrium.

You want to become your loved one’s best chance of getting into recovery or staying in recovery.

You are fearful that your loved one is on a pathway to addiction, or you are not sure whether they are an addict, but you want to know how best to support them.

What benefits can be expected? 

Clients who go through this process feel supported in a safe and nurturing environment, no longer alone in struggling with their loved one’s addiction. They grow in confidence when they learn to take the focus off the addict and put it back onto themselves (self-care) which in turn causes less stress and anxiety. They learn new ways to communicate, which lead to improved relationships. With their newfound clarity around addiction, they can begin to make healthier choices for themselves and around the addict. From being enmeshed in addiction and the addict, their horizons now expand; they re-find their passion for life, and they feel able to start to look to the future, with time to reflect on what they really want and how to get it. They learn how to overcome barriers and obstacles and find ways to solve problems previously thought unsolvable. Chaos is replaced by calm.

It’s very difficult to anticipate how one will react to a course such
as this. However, Lucy was sensitive to this from the outset.
Clearly presented, tailored to my particular situation, practical
and realistic, Lucy challenged me, my previous understanding
and my habits and, through gentle questioning and offering of
ideas, provided me with an armoury of tactics to move forward
with my daughter’s addiction. I’m very grateful for her insight
and her kindness. I can now see a way through.
— Sarah, 2022